Child Protective Services (CPS) continues their assault on OUR FAMILY! They have made some recent moves that my wife and I consider to be nothing less than unconscionable. With Timothy our 16-years-old son still separated from us and his six siblings, and still spiraling out of control, our other six children are now to be separated from each other the first time in their lives. It was not enough to rip them from their parents 15 months ago without cause, but apparently Child Protective Services (product acquisition team) will not rest until they complete a full round of destruction on our precious children. Our children are to be separated and spread into three separate foster homes (strangers). What on earth is going on? Who are these EVIL, DESPICABLE people? There are no words to describe the egregious ABUSE effectuated by CPS against OUR FAMILY!
I sent an email asking the following of CPS JULIE RIGGINS regarding CPS’ desire to continue their indoctrination program (therapy) for each of our oldest children - and continued with the subsequent exchange…
Original Email to Julie Riggins…
Help me understand something so I can continue to help in this effort to secure a therapist. Why is there a need for my children to have therapy? What is the diagnosis and how does the diagnosis relate to future therapy needs?
Ron Reale, Executive Director
ExposingTheRecord.org
11010-100 Lake Grove Blvd. STE 211
Morrisville, NC 27560
ronreale@exposingtherecord.org
Response from Julie’s supervisor John Gustavson…
Mr. Reale
This is to respond to your inquiry about the need for continuing therapy for your children. In 2010 your four oldest children were diagnosed with Adjustment Disorder by a child mental health clinician with the Wake County Children’s Health and Development Program. The children’s therapist in Onslow County took this diagnosis into account while working with the children. Hannah and Sarah showed developmental and emotional growth while receiving services from this therapist. Stephen also showed progress in dealing with his emotions and their expression. He continues to desire to have an outlet to discuss his feelings regarding his family history and the changes affecting his family. However, over the past three to four months Matthew has shown a significant decrease in his ability to deal with stressors which indicates that he would benefit from a therapeutic relationship with a mental health clinician. In addition, all four children have recently experienced new stressors, including the news that they would not be moving to California to live with their mother, a move that they thought was imminent, and their upcoming moves into new foster homes in Wake County. In light of these circumstances it would be beneficial for the children to continue in therapy.
John Gustavson
Child Welfare Services Supervisor
My Response…
It’s truly amazing to see you write these words with a straight face (so to speak). You are all MASTERS, and give new meaning to the definition of “play on words” and “rhetoric.” You’re not fooling anyone. Sometimes I wonder if you actually believe your own “lip service,” manipulation, and BLATANT LIES. You should be quite aware that the original observations as stated by your so-called “child mental health clinician with the Wake County Children’s Health and Development Program” were to continue to monitor our children for “post traumatic stress” (which turned out to be way off base…) and not “adjustment disorder.” In fact it was not until the indoctrination sessions began in Onslow County that the so-called therapist, Joyce Williams (who I must say is an embarrassment to her profession) actually found NOTHING to support anything of the sort relating to ANY “Major” disorder and decided to assign a diagnosis of “adjustment Disorder,” which I have said before, truly amounts to nothing more than a “billing code” for her services (or should I say a profiteering scheme). Joyce Williams did however take the opportunity to poison my children’s minds with other elements of her “socialist” agenda for a period of over 9 months. I wonder if you personally, or anyone in your agency, has the first clue of what “adjustment disorder” really is? More importantly, what does it have to do with myself and my wife. The “adjustment” referred to in this particular “residual” disorder clearly points to you and your entire agency! You and the Kangaroo Court have caused this disruption in the lives of our entire family. The weakest (mentally) of our family are suffering the most, specifically I refer to the youngest of our children. Make no mistake about it, our entire family suffers from these actions initiated and by you, your agency, and the rest of the so-called court officers, other officials (Judges included), and the entire body of the Kangaroo Court in 4C.
Defined: adjustment disorder (AD) is a psychological response to an identifiable stressor or group of stressors that cause(s) significant emotional or behavioral symptoms that do not meet criteria for anxiety disorder, PTSD, or acute stress disorder. Treatments recommended include; symptom relief and behavior change.
Hey! Here’s a thought, what about returning our six minor children to their parents and restoring our FAMILY? Of course not, your agency has this thing “nipped in the bud” – you would rather separate our children from each other for the first time in their lives and disperse them two by two among strangers (three separate foster homes), and then present to them that their parent’s have abandoned them; which is in keeping with your endless trail of LIES and deception since the start. Hey! What about increasing the number of visits with their parents? OH NO, that would not work in your favor as our kids might see positive results (even symptom relief and behavior change) from their alleged “adjustment disorder.” After all, Every single visit has reported nothing but positive responses (in every way) from each of our children - when they have access to myself, my wife, or us together! Can you people actually be that INGNORANT? Or are you truly the epidemy of EVIL?
Recent visits have been reported as follows:
Report dated July 13, 2011 – prepared by Time Together Supervised Visit and Exchange Center’s MSW, LCSW; “When ending the visit all children hugged Mr. Reale and expressed their love for him. All children stated their disappointment with the ending of the visit. The children expressed desire to extend the visit and expressed that they are excited about the next visit. It should be noted that the children’s desire to extend the visit appears to be more out of love for Mr. Reale.”
“On a few occasions some of the children have attempted to delay the ending of the visit by clinging to Mr. Reale or attempting to hide in the room, stating their desire for the visit to continue.”
“Mr. Reale has used appropriate discipline with the children in relation to inappropriate behavior. The children appear receptive to Mr. Reale’s discipline strategies, which include acknowledging the negative behavior, discussing why the behavior is inappropriate and then pointing out other options to the negative behaviors. Mr. Reale also used positive reinforcement throughout all the visits; praising the children for positive interactions as well as cleaning up when prompted.”
Other visits have been more specifically reported as follows:
Report dated July 11, 2011 – prepared by Time Together Supervised Visit and Exchange Center’s MSW, LCSW;
Matthew (10)
“The discussion concluded with Matthew giving his dad a long embrace, while both cried a little. Matthew was given some time to compose himself before going with the therapist to get his siblings. Matthew appeared to enjoy the remainder of the visit and did not seem bothered by the discussion prior with his father. Matthew initiated conversations and engaged in play as he did in other visits.”
Hannah (8)
“Hannah has continued to express a need for close physical contact (hugs, sitting on lap) on numerous occasions throughout the visits. On occasion, Hannah has also expressed a desire to not leave visits as evidenced by her hiding at the end of a few different visits. Hannah also stated on one occasion, ‘we are going to McDonald’s but I’d rather stay here’ implying that she wanted to stay with Mr. Reale.”
Sarah (7)
“Sarah has been receptive to greater attention and on occasion has demonstrated her love for her mother and father. On 5/18/11, Sarah also expressed her love for Mr. Reale and her mother by drawing a picture of her mother and father inside of a heart with the words ‘I love mom and dad’.”
Joseph (5)
“On many occasions throughout each visit Joseph will make eye contact and smile at Mr. Reale. On 6/15/11, Joseph attempted to extend the end of the visit again by grabbing onto Mr. Reale’s leg and refusing to leave.”
Benjamin (3)
“Benjamin has been open to affection by Mr. Reale. During the last three visits Mr. Reale has engaged Benjamin in reading a story, which Benjamin appears to really enjoy. During the last visit on 6/29/11 after stating goodbyes, Benjamin shared that ‘we are not going yet!’”
Stephen (12)
Stephen, My wonderful young man… Still not visiting due to the damage done by Child Protective Services. They have him so fearful, and so confused… He simply does not want to make them “mad” at him! He is so very scared! I am coming Stephen… You hang in there my buddy. Daddy is coming for you very soon!
You are absolutely 100% responsible for our son Timothy (16-years-old at the start of this), his current condition, and his current state of mind (mentally and physically). He has been placed on drugs to control his behavior (initiated by your agency back in September of 2010, while failing to meet his needs from the start of this fiasco), without consulting with myself or my wife. He has never had need of so much as an aspirin in our home. He has been detained by law enforcement on at least two separate occasions while in your custody, even arrested and charged at least once, with criminal charges pending (your agency is directly responsible). By the way, I now have dozens of emails sent to myself and my wife over the past several months that display Julie’s ignorance in making various claims that seem to blame Timothy and our other six minor children for their current situation! Clearly not willing to admit any fault on the part of your agency for the galactic failure with regard to removing our children and placing them with such incompetence to begin with. Once again your agency, specifically
agents like yourself, Julie Riggins, Nikki Lyons, and Saundra Judd absolutely CAUSED these despicable acts to take root in OUR SON’S LIFE! Nothing of the sort has EVER been a part of Timothy, or his being – in any way. He is now what is so affectionately called a “cutter” best defined as; “Injuring yourself on purpose by making scratches or cuts on your body with a sharp object — enough to break the skin and make it bleed — is called cutting. Cutting is a type of self-injury, or SI. Most people who cut are girls, but guys self-injure, too. People who cut usually start cutting in their young teens. Some continue to cut into adulthood.” And you think I will not do EVERYTHING within my power to see you ALL held accountable? That aside, It is unconscionable to me that he may be lost – now 17-years-old! We have not given up on him, but realize that you and your agency have all but taken his LIFE – literally; as he will soon be 18 and on his own – virtually out of our grasp and likely paralyzing us from being able to rescue him from the path of destruction you have so happily set him on. Doing your best to live up to the stats I see!!!
- that Children are 11 times more likely to be abused in State care than they are in their own homes
- that there are more than half a million Children and Youth in the U.S. foster care system, a 90% increase since 1987
- that 3 of 10 of the nation’s homeless are former foster children
- that 12-18 months after leaving foster care:
27% of the males and 10% of the females had been incarcerated
33% were receiving public assistance
37% had not finished high school
50% were unemployed - that 80 percent of prison inmates have been through the foster care system
Children in foster care are 3 to 6 times more likely than children not in care to have emotional, behavioral and developmental problems, including conduct disorders, depression, difficulties in school and impaired social relationships.
Some experts estimate that about 30% of the children in care have marked or severe emotional problems.
Various studies have indicated that children and young people in foster care tend to have limited education and job skills, perform poorly in school compared to children who are not in foster care, lag behind in their education by at least 1 year, and have lower educational attainment than the general population.
Based on your agency’s update at the hearings in April and your agency’s official Court Report from the same, Judge Monica Bousman made the following statement about Timothy as part of her “Order” filed on May 27, 2011; “It appears that his needs for safety and stability are being met.” WOW! What an understatement, and what deception – nothing NEW – same old CPS! Truly the scum of the earth!
You say that our girls Hannah and Sarah have “showed developmental and emotional growth while receiving services from this therapist” and that “Stephen also showed progress in dealing with his emotions and their expression.”
What does this mean? There is no reason for anyone to believe your LIES, your ability to access such a critical situation, or your claims of any need to continue such so-called therapy. Are you aware of what my girls may have suffered at the hands of Natasha’s live-in boyfriend? I have some very nice pictures of him that show off his charisma nicely – Mohawk and all. Have you conducted a background check on this person? ABSOLUTELY NOT! After all, you are the same people who concealed our son Stephen’s very serious medical episode/condition for almost 3 weeks, when he completely lost consciousness for no apparent reason – this after also concealing the fact that he had taken-up smoking with his 9-year-old brother, our son Matthew (whom you now describe as a boy who has shown a significant decrease in his ability to deal with stressors – as if it is his fault) and further concealed this little tidbit from Stephen’s examining doctor. You also concealed the trip to Pittsburgh that your agency arranged for my children as they went off to spend Christmas, not their own mother or father, but with my sister, their estranged Aunt Kelli-Ann (or is it Kelli Brant as I think she now refers to herself?), a person who is a well-known, proudly proclaimed sexual deviant, under very specific psychiatric care – requiring medication for well over ten years. A person whom my wife and I would NEVER trust with our children overnight. Oh, and let’s not forget about the medication the current caregiver Natasha Wilde-Brant requires to get through the day. You are the same agency that concealed the fact that Stephen (12 years-old) was left to care for his siblings - all 5 children under 10-years-old EVERY FRIDAY NIGHT while their 24-year-old caregiver was out doing God
knows what? And what about all the sleep-overs (even after I objected)? Did any of those over-night folks have a background check done? I haven’t forgotten about the time when one of Natasha’s other live-in boyfriends (while she was still married) allowed Timothy (barely 16, no learners permit, let alone any experience behind the wheel of a car) to drive his car INTO A DITCH with our children Matthew 9, Hannah 7, and Sarah 6 in the back seat. And I never could figure out how you authorized another adult (Natasha’s Mother Robin Dominguez) and minor child (Natasha’s sister Wendy Dominguez – 10-years-old) to reside with Natasha and our 7 minor children (let’s see that makes 10 people) in a small apartment from August through January? With all the support I was providing ($6,000+ during those few short months) combined with the “Welfare” they were receiving, I guess we call that FRAUD where I come from! And you just stood by and watched? Even conspired to make it happen. By the way, I understand the current living conditions without the extra adult and child require my children to “share” a bed; what could it have been like with the extra bodies? Three to a bed? let’s not forget that you sent our children off to a “Church of God” week-long camp without even consulting myself or my wife. Government knows best??? Not quite. More like another violation of The First Amendment!
It literally sickens me as I read your “pass-the-buck” words of inspiration; “all four
children have recently experienced new stressors, including the news that they would not be moving to California to live with their mother, a move that they thought was imminent, and their upcoming moves into new foster homes in Wake County.” As if to imply that my wife, who you coerced to begin with, is somehow responsible for the current condition of my children. This is a woman who you have successfully manipulated from day one. You coerced her into getting a Protective Order in April of 2010 (courtesy of Saundra Judd and her handiwork of LIES – I have it in black and white) when there was no need, but all the benefits to you and your cause at that time; and again in July 2011 (courtesy of Julie Riggins and her handiwork of LIES – really? trying to have a VOID Order from 2010 reinstated?), even after no-contact for over 11 months once again proving that you and your agency will stop at nothing to advance your agenda. And actually requiring this as part of the ICPC? I must confess, I have read much of this Interstate Compact and I see nothing of the sort in any of its requirements! Shameful! Did you hear that? It was the sound of all the walls of secrecy crashing down around you!
RICK CROUTHARMEL…
Hey Mr. Croutharmel, if you have made it this far in the reading, I thought you should know that I also have the email where you recommended Debra get a Protective Order after I successfully attacked the unlawful DVPO here in North Carolina, subsequently set-aside as VOID. On what grounds? Once again, that email was sent by you in the first week in April after 7 months of No-Contact with my wife. You really are a pretender, and it seems an unethical one at that…
From: Rick Croutharmel
To: Debra Reale
March 28, 2011
“This morning Judge Christian set aside the domestic violence protective order (DVPO). That means Ron no longer has a court order directing him to stay away from you. There is still a court order directing him to have only limited contact with the children (Judge Bousman’s order on Ron’s visitation).
You are free to do what you want at this point but I recommend you continue to stay away from Ron and keep your whereabouts hidden from him. Judge Bousman cannot enter an order directing Ron to stay away from you. Even if she could, she would not do so because she is waiting to see how you will handle the situation. If you return to Ron at this point, DSS, the GAL, and Judge Bousman will all probably see that as being bad for the children. You can also try to get another DVPO put in place in California. However, doing so will likely reveal your whereabouts to Ron. If you are interested in doing that, talk to Julie about it first to see how she feels about it.“
It seems your coercive tactics of intimidation failed with my wife’s return to North carolina and of course she did not take your advice in fraudulently pursuing a protective order. Is that how the Sixth Amendment gets interpreted these days? I can’t help but wonder if that sort of aggressive representation is within the ethics guidelines; i.e. representing your client zealously within the bounds of the law? We shall see. Do any of these statements ring a bell? A lawyer cannot assist his client in conduct he knows to be illegal or fraudulent. Furthermore, if a lawyer receives information that his client has conducted a fraud on a person or court he/she must ask the client to rectify the fraud. If the client is unable and unwilling, the lawyer must reveal the fraud to the individual or court. You call yourself “an officer of the court?” A pretender; through and through…
GUARDIAN AD LITEM…
Hey, Top Ten Counsel, What good is your so-called agency “The Guardian ad Litem” with such failures and incompetence proliferating about? How can you explain these acts of endangerment to our children? How can you continue to justify not returning our children to us immediately? I guarantee you will be nowhere near the “top-ten” with these acts of ineptness on your curriculum vitae. I will continue ExposingTheRecord. Maybe you should spend less time trying to “take-down” the website and more time earning your “easy-money” or at least giving a flip about the welfare of my children while they are in YOUR custody! A VOICE FOR THE CHILDREN? REALLY???
FOR THE REST OF YOU…
I DO NOT support my children continuing in these indoctrination programs of so-called therapy. I DEMAND that our children be released from their unlawful detention and returned to us forthwith. I DO NOT support my children be in contact with any member of our extended family in North Carolina, Pittsburgh, Arizona, California or any other state without prior approval from myself or my wife Debra. I do not support my children being taken to ANY CHURCH or ANY other religious EVENT of ANY kind. This is a violation of our family’s First Amendment rights! Period!
THIS IS NOT OVER! NOT BY ANY STRETCH! ANYONE CARE TO PARTAKE IN THE RADIO INTERVIEW I HAVE UPCOMING? GIVE US BACK OUR CHILDREN!!!
Ron Reale, Executive Director
ExposingTheRecord.org
11010-100 Lake Grove Blvd. STE 211
Morrisville, NC 27560
ronreale@exposingtherecord.org
I am coming…
“Like a runaway freight train with all the full force, power and authority of THE UNITED STATES CONSTITUTION. I mean to see change in this VERY, VERY BROKEN SYSTEM! Justice will prevail! Clearly you know not the BOND between a father or mother and their children.”
Ron Reale, Indignant Father
and with the support and direction from my father in heaven…
PSALM 27:1 The LORD is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? the LORD is the strength of my life; of whom shall I be afraid?
My Testimony
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA YOU WANNA KNOW WHY I STARDED CUTTING?!?! ITS BECAUSE OF YOU!! YOU DID IT IT WAS YOUR FAULT!! I WANTED TO HURT YOU BUT INSTEAD I HURT MYSELF AND IT MADE ME FEEL GOOD!! OK AND THE REASON WHY I WAS PUT ON DRUGS WAS BECAUSE I WOULD HAVE NIGHTMARES ABOUT YOU!!! NIGHTMARES OF THE PAST! DO YOU REMEMBER THE TIME WHEN YOU GOT MAD THAT I DIDNT CLEAN UP HANNAH AND SARAHS ROOM SO YOU GRABED ME BY THE NECK AND SLAMED ME INTO THE WALL AND SPIT IN MY FACE AND CALLED ME A PUSSY AND BEAT THE SHIT OUT OF ME!?!?! DO YOU?!?! OH WHAT ABOUT THE TIME WHEN YOU MADE ME EAT MY OWN PUKE BECAUSE I WOULDNT EAT YOUR SLAW THAT YOU MADE?!?! AND WHAT ABOUT THE TIME WHEN YOU KICKED ME IN THE BACK BECAUSE I SPILT OIL ON THE PORCH!! MY BACK IS STILL NUMB FROM THAT!!! OH WHAT ABOUT THE TIME WHEN YOU TOOK MY HEAD AND SLAMED MY FACE ON THE COUNTER BECAUSE I GOT A MATH QUESTION WRONG!!! PARENTAL RIGHTS? HAHA DONT MAKE ME LAUGH!! I DONT ANY LOVE FPR YOU SO STOP THINKING THAT I DO!!! I HATE YOU AND I CANT WAIT TO SEE YOU LOOSE!!
oh dont worry stephen knows what youve done because he is old enough to relize. AND DO NOT PUT MY FACE OR MY NAME ON THIS STUPID SITE about how musch i love you because i hate your guts! and i wna your ass in jail so my mother and m siblings can live a normal life! OR I WILL PRESS CHAGES AGAINST YOU!
dont you ever talk about my father like that ….and i swear if you lay one hand on my mother i will put your ass in jail. you may be foolin everyone else but your not fooling me. and i will work everybone in my body to take you down…and im allready in the works of it…i may only be a kid but im going to do whatever it takes to protect my mother… and my brothers and sissters from you…and FYI MY SO CALLED “DEAD BEAT FATHER” IS THE BEST FATHER I CAN AKS FOR!!!! HE HAS BEEN PAYING CHILDS SUPPORT YOU LIER!! YOU JUST BEEN KEEPING THAT MONEY FOR YOURSELF!!! BECAUSE YOUR A SELFISH SON OF A BITCH! AND I FEEL SORRY FOR EVERYONE WHO BELIEVES THIS LITTLE WEBSITE YOU HAVE! IM NOT THE “BOY” THAT YOU USED TO THINK I AM!!! YOUR NEVER GOING TO WIN….I WONT LET YOU…
First, let me say that you are always welcome to comment on this and other websites and/or facebook pages, but I would ask that you refrain from using inappropriate language…
To quickly address your “dead beat father” I can only provide the facts to you and you can certainly verify them with mom. He abandoned you twice in your life. The first time was when you were just 12 months or so. You and your mom came into my life with your older sister Melissa when you were 15 months.
In 2001 your mom’s family decided to track him down and “use him” to sue us for custody since we moved from California to Florida (they wanted us back in California). Eventually they found him living several hours north of them in California. He agreed to participate. During this effort by mom’s family he abandoned you and your sister for a second time (you should remember this somewhat since you were 7-years-old) – long story short, he never showed up for court after his attorney quit (the attorney paid for by your mom’s family). He was then assessed over $40,000 in back support and ordered to pay current support of about $1,050 per. month. He did not make any payments (current or back support). In fact, he did not pay one cent of support until 2009 (through forced paycheck garnishment) when you were approximately 15-years-old. From that point the payments stopped coming (whenever he switched jobs) two or three times and started up again once the State of California located him and forced a garnishment once again. He has never paid voluntarily. He owes your mother and me over $100,000.00+ to become current. Those payments will be due and will continue to be garnished from his check long after you turn 18 in May, until paid in full.
Regarding Stephen… Your brother has NEVER spoken negatively in any way, to anyone, about anything to do with life in our home. Not of me, mom, or even our home-life in general. Nothing! He speaks freely about accountability and discipline when asked. Regarding discipline, he recognizes and seems to specifically articulate to others that he was ONLY punished when there was a need, and he further reports of things like being sent to bed early and other types of restrictions. He reports of neither “beatings” nor anything else of the sort. No eating Puke, No Punching, No Kicking, or any other type of abuse for that matter. The same is true of Matthew, Hannah, Sarah, Joseph, and Benjamin if they even speak of such things at all.
It seems clear that anything negative Stephen knows of, and/or may/may not believe, is based on what you’ve been feeding him. It’s better described as confusion. In fact it is also clear that he does not know what to believe at times. It seems you have been very aggressively trying to bring him into your fold and deeper into this world of corruption. He is only 13 (just turned 13) and does not need to have his brain filled with such despicable filth. He brings away lots of questions from your conversations? For example, he wanted to know why I was dishonorably discharged from the Marines. Really??? I seem to remember serving 8 years and receiving an honorable discharge with a 1A re-enlistment code! Stephen says you told him this, among other things. Everything he repeats he has a hard time explaining with any detail but easily remembers the source (YOU). Your sister Melissa has even told him that he cannot believe anything you say (according to Stephen). And by the way your older Sister Melissa (now 22-years-old) has never reported any abuse. Why is that? She lived in our home until 19½-years-old. This is not good Timmy. Whatever has fueled your anger, please leave your brothers and sisters out of it.
I can’t help but notice that you don’t mention Matthew (11-years-old) who of course is close enough in age to Stephen to also understand what is going on… Most likely you have not been able to affect him as easily or at all. CPS and even the courts have not been able to take advantage of Matthew as he regularly demands visits and/or to come home with mom and me (from the beginning). All this says to me is that you are learning your tricks from CPS – going after the weaker, and when I say weaker I mean to say Stephen wants to please everyone and that makes him an easy target. Age has nothing to do with this. In any case, you should leave them all out of it. Shame on anyone who will take advantage of the precious mind of a child!
So, I caused you to start cutting? Is that what they told you? Of course it is. That’s what they wanted you to believe or at least what they wanted to you to repeat at some later date and time (like now, even if it is two years later). They had to give you an excuse. It’s called brainwashing, parental alienation, even witchcraft by some of us, among other things!!! It is shameful and despicable, but not a huge surprise. This is in keeping with all the research I have done over the past two years. Social Workers, so-called mental health professionals, even members of the legal community and court officers are all feeding from the same trough. They have the same agenda – MONEY! They’re all making money at the expense of children and families. In order to keep the money flowing, they MUST keep control of their product (kids/teens like you, your brothers and sisters).
Let’s look at a few things. You and I have not seen each other since March 2010. This was not your choice but rather a decision made by your mother while she and I were having our share of marital problems. She should never have involved you kids and she should never have involved social services. She absolutely should have never left North Carolina for California. She should never have fabricated any charges of abuse. As you know, she and I are together now and are fighting every day for the return of our children, you included. Just a note as to my contribution to these events when this all started: false allegations aside, I should have been a much better father and husband thereby preventing her from feeling the need to leave our home. I take responsibility for that.
You and I last spoke on June 22, 2010. This conversation was before they (CPS) came for you and was while you were still staying at grandma and papa’s house in Nevada. During that conversation you said; “I love you and I miss you, and I’m sorry for what they are doing to you.” I remember in response telling you that I don’t care what they are doing to me; I don’t like what they are trying to do to you kids and how they are trying to involve you kids, I just wish they all knew the truth. You quickly responded; “I know the truth.” To which I responded “that’s good enough for me, hang in there and be good for grandma and papa.” We have not spoken since…
Your cutting started in September 2010. You had met a girl who you claimed to be “in love with.” Not the same girl you were “in love with” in Pittsburgh just a few months earlier. But this new girl was a cutter, right? Wasn’t it determined that you were cutting to impress her? Sure it’s very easy to assign blame for such an act (like blaming me now), but that doesn’t make it true. So you want people to believe that you waited until 6 months of having “no contact” with me before you started cutting because of me???
What about the circumstances and experiences you faced since we last saw each other? You were pulled “kicking and screaming,” even crying (understandably) from grandma and papa’s house in Nevada by the police department (you had been fraudulently reported missing by NC CPS, which is odd since mom and I told them exactly where you were). Expressing your anger over this unlawful act committed against you, you went on to vandalize the boy’s home (Child Haven) they threw you in, you were then officially kidnapped by Julie Riggins and CPS when they came for you in Nevada (this is being addressed in my $20,000,000 lawsuit against them), only to throw you in another boy’s home (Wrenn House) in Raleigh.
Eventually you were dumped off with your 24-year-old cousin Natasha over 150 miles from any REAL adult or any semblance of accountability, and then you REALLY started to spin out of control; all this while being deprived of your mother and myself (also over 150 miles away and being denied visits). You were regularly in trouble in school, and would often not even come home at night. You continued to make poor decisions (under duress) by barging into the home of this teenage girl and threatening to assault her and/or members of her family (at least that’s what they are telling me). This event was apparently the last straw when CPS decided to remove you from your kinship placement and consequently threw you back into the boy’s home (Wake House) in Raleigh (still denying contact with mom or me).
While in Wake House for over 3 months you were drugged and continued to commit similar acts of defiance. This is where you now claim you were having nightmares about the “past” and/or about “me.” The reason I’m such an easy target for you in this regard is that they (CPS,the courts, mom’s family, even mom herself in the beginning) made me your target and have been drilling it into you ever since. While at Wake House (also named in my Federal Lawsuit) you would regularly escape, you vandalized your school, and you were even arrested at least twice for shoplifting and vandalism. Apparently you were caught on camera “kissing a boy” and that picture was posted on the internet. Again, all this while being deprived of your parents, also noting that none of this ever took place in our home for over 16 years. Nothing even close!!!
I guess what I’m getting at, is that you are 18-years-old now, and are more than able to think for yourself. You may not have liked the accountability and/or the discipline in our home, but you NEVER even thought of cutting, taking drugs, running away, or an of the other forms of delinquency you have since been exposed to.
By the way – NIGHTMARES; we’re all having nightmares!!! Including you no doubt! It’s your brothers and sisters who are having nightmares; it’s your mother and I who are having nightmares. But not from anything prior to this evil empire kidnapping each of you and locking each of you away in various places against your will and ours! Drugs are not the answer! Returning you all to your family and re-establishing our family unit has been the answer from the beginning! PERIOD! It has been my fight from the beginning, and it will remain might fight!
Most of all you should know that none of this is your fault. It is this retched system you and your brothers and sisters were thrust into!!! Of course none of your new found family members were ever made to endure such torture!!! That’s why it’s so easy for them to embrace and support what is happening to all of you, and the fact that it really doesn’t affect their lives in any way.
To address the accusations you make, I can only say that these are the same allegations that were fabricated by your mother with the help of her family and social services. You already know this of course. I’m sure you think adding them to your comment as part of expressing your anger for this whole situation will make them more truthful or at least more believable. Let’s start with the “puke” mentioned… You may or may not know it but this goes all the way back to 2001. The truth is your grandmother (your mom’s mom) did not like that you and your older sister were required to eat all of your food at meals so your grandmother concocted this allegation and called CPS to investigate. I find it hard to believe that you would even remember any of this since you was only 6-years-old when this allegation was first fabricated, but it was well documented then and now. Do you remember when CPS came to your class in Kindergarten to question you about this and you said you were never forced, or even asked to eat “throw up?” Then your sister, your mother and I of course also denied this was ever took place in our home. I still have the documented final report with findings of “NO ABUSE” from the 2001 investigation. The words being used today are vomit and now PUKE as you describe in your comment. It’s amazing how the words get more and more inflammatory as the LIES get harder and harder to prove – stronger words get more attention and are more believable I guess… I also remember that during that same year you were climbing on the open bottom drawer of a dresser while watching TV. The TV fell off and basically just missed you. It was very scary. Your grandmother included in her complaint that I threw the TV off the dresser on top you???
And what about slamming your face into the counter? I wonder if you could tell me when and where this happened. I know the answer to that already, and so do you. You cannot, because it never did. What is clear however is that you are recalling from the document your mom has admitted to fabricating and putting in your pocket at the courthouse in California (remember she also put a copy of these fabrications in Stephen, Matthew, Hannah, and Sarah’s pockets? Joseph and Benjamin were too young.). By the way, the original allegation spoke of you getting spelling words wrong and now you state that it was a math problem. Maybe a small point when it comes to the serious nature of the allegation, but I can’t help but wonder how the details get mixed up at all (if the event were even remotely true)?
Do you remember on your first trip to California when mom asked you if there was anything, anything at all you can think of that she could make sound like abuse to give to the judge so dad could not come and force you all to return to North Carolina. Do you remember when you said; “no I can’t think of anything.” This was in response to the California Social Worker instructing your mom to write down some stronger allegations, stronger than the original allegations of verbal abuse she had already included in her original request for a California Domestic Violence Protective Order. The Social Workers told her that if she did not, the children would have to return to North Carolina by order of the NC Court. You see; if your mom did not file for a Domestic Violence Protective Order while in California she was potentially in violation of the law and various parental kidnapping statutes (and she knew this).
So now your back injury, described as being “still numb” from when I kicked you (by the way when this injury was first alleged it was described as a punch, and your mother later admitted it was completely fabricated and derived from an accidental injury you sustained in 2009). We both know when this occurred (2009) and how it occurred. Yes you spilled grease while cleaning the grill and you slipped on the grease. And yes you were even slightly injured, but of course you were never kicked as described, or even punched. In fact, your mother asked you that very evening as I recall why you were walking funny and you explained it to her in the same way I just described. So how is it you can make it through an entire ice hockey season with a numb back? You just finished playing an entire season of ice hockey, right? And it was also my understanding that you could not complete an obstacle course at some time in 2011 and subsequently complained of a “bad back” from an injury your dad gave you. It seems you were taken to the doctor to follow up on your complaint and no injury was found.
When you state that you can’t wait to see me “loose” I can’t help but wonder where that comes from. Loose how? I have already lost, your mom has lost, you, your brothers and sisters have already lost. We can only do our best to move forward and make progress. Progress in that we can somehow bring our family back together. Maybe you are speaking of losing the battle to do just that, bring our family back together. But then I would ask WHY? Why would you wish for such a thing? You know the truth about our life together (especially compared to the nightmare you and your brothers and sisters have endured since). Oh sure, in our home there was accountability, responsibility, and even discipline whenever necessary and you may not have liked those things, but never abuse or neglect; and clearly looking back you must be able to see, and certainly feel that the last two years pale in comparison. In fact I would absolutely describe the last two years as being littered with abuse and neglect while you have all been in the custody of CPS.
I see this very concept over and over again at various times and in various ways throughout this case; People like your mom and others, fabricating and manipulating facts to cover up previous fabrications and/or manipulations, people lying to cover up previous lies (relatives and social workers), people committing unlawful acts to cover up previous unlawful acts (judges and court officers), and so on. There seems no end to the corruption or the cover up!!!
Again, none of this is your fault. TRULY, NONE OF IT! It may sound like I am blaming you but I am simply pointing out facts in response to some very serious allegations. I do challenge you to overcome this “victim” mentality however. Clearly this process, the various CPS agents and/or so-called mental health professionals have taught you to be a “victim,” have taught you that it’s OK to be a “victim.” This is what they do! This is what sustains their very existence! They cannot survive without “victims.” I promise you this! Now you are proclaiming that status. I challenge you to overcome this attitude and remember that even if this concept of being a “victim” was acceptable (and it is to a certain degree – in certain circumstances), it would certainly only apply to REAL “victims.” You have the power to put a stop to it; at least to the extent that you participate or agree to be involved in any way. As you grow older and more mature you must be sensing these things on your own. I suggest you welcome your new feelings and accept this responsibility to the “truth” with open arms as they come. I know you have a lot to overcome after all you have been through, but someday you will see that you have that strength. If you are a victim of anything it is of this corrupt system, and even then I would challenge you to overcome and push past this evil.
Never feel embarrassed or ashamed of what you have been through. I take full responsibility for not being able to protect you, for being taken completely by surprise that such a system even existed. But, now that I know, I am educating myself and I am setting out to eradicate this entire system of corruption. I hope someday you can forgive me for not protecting you, your brothers, and your sisters form this nightmare. If not, I will understand (but I will encourage you to try hard) as I have yet to convince myself that I will ever have what it takes forgive those involved. For that shortfall, I will certainly have to answer to my father in heaven. You should realize that these people have committed worse acts on others. There is always someone suffering just that much more than you, or any of us for that matter.
This system of corruption and the likes of Julie Riggins, Saundra Judd and the very many others have manipulated, coerced and intimidated people much older than you and with much more experience in life. But, make no mistake, they prey on the weakest among us like children, teens like yourself, and women like your mother. The goal of this corruption, CPS and the like is to divide and conquer, divide and separate families. Just take a look at our situation; mom and I must live apart, all of you kids are spread out into four different homes (stranger’s homes). This is the only way they can succeed at their profiteering scheme, the only way they can operate for profit whatsoever. Oh yeah, that’s right they get paid thousands (from our very own federal government) for keeping you kids separated from us and they get bonuses for adopting kids out. Did you know that Julie Riggins and CPS asked the judge to approve Stephen, Matthew, Hannah, Sarah, Joseph, and Benjamin for adoption in the last court hearing in January 2012? And those Gift Cards (Wal-Mart and others) they hand out like candy; they are being investigated for using them for their own purposes (stealing them). They (CPS social workers just like Julie Riggins) have spent and unaccounted for over $200,000.00 in Gift Cards purchased with cash they earned from keeping kids and teens like you in custody. Gift Cards they normally use as bribes! Bribes paid to you children and teens in their custody to keep you all on their side and right where they want you. As I type this I find myself thinking how sorry I am that you are smack in the middle of this corruption!
People like my own sister Kelli-Ann Reale have become champions for the cause of eradicating abuse. The problem with that notion is that it cannot be eradicated (at least not the way they are setting out to do so). You should first know that Kelli-Ann is a fraud! My own mother can tell you more first-hand information about her own daughter in recent years, but she is my sister and I know quite a bit myself. For instance, she was never abused in our home. None of us were. She will tell you all day long and twice on Sunday that she was molested by my father (later recanted – and then later re-instated???), and that she was physically abused in other ways in our home. Not while I was living there, or my brother (ask him yourself). She will also tell you that she was raped in Florida on a business trip and that she was abused by her lesbian girlfriend in Pittsburgh. She will further tell you that she is no longer a lesbian (a lifestyle claim she made for over 15 years), but now she may be back to “Not Sure.” At a minimum she is very confused and even disturbed. She tried to commit suicide in New York during her college days (mostly due to her new-found lifestyle experiment and financial difficulties).
So it should come as no surprise that Kelli-Ann and MANY, MANY others like her continue to advance this agenda of using “abuse” as an excuse for everything (real or fabricated). You can’t get a job – you must have been abused and you need medication, you can’t get along in a relationship – you must have been abused and need medication, you can’t do well in school – you must have been abused and need medication, you don’t get along with family – you must have been abused and need medication, to name just a few.
Did you know that … 78% (8 of 10 reports) of Domestic Violence claims are determined to be false? Do you know that the reason for these false claims is due to matters of child custody? That’s because it takes 3-5 months to get in front of a judge to settle the question of custody between two adults with children, but if you make claims of Domestic Violence (even false) you will be heard by a judge within 10 days… Quite the motivation to fabricate and /or make false allegations don’t you think? Just like what happened with your mom and me.
Something else to consider… You speak of protecting your mom, your brothers and sisters; yet keeping these false allegations and fabrications on life support by lashing out with some sort of misdirected anger only continues to hurt them all. Notice I did not even mention the effect on me. Your mom especially, as she works to get past what she was responsible for at the start. She has long recanted these very same allegations repeatedly and she continues to struggle with guilt! She is especially hurt by the fact that it is her own son (who knows the truth with the best of us). CPS and the courts may lack evidence and any other form of proof to sustain these allegations leaving them with question marks, but YOU were a part of our house for 16 years. You are our son. You were there. That makes these continued attacks most unacceptable and contrary to your statement of having the desire to protect anyone. And by the way, it is the responsibility of your mother and me to protect our children (including you) and my responsibility to protect your mother (as her husband), not yours. I know you already know this too, but it is important to point out that your mom has never even accused me of ever laying a hand on her (not even falsely). Each and every one of you was asked in a CPS mental health evaluation back in June 2010 (when you were all first kidnapped) if you had ever witnessed any type of violence between mom and me. Each of you answered NO. That’s you, Stephen, Matthew, Hannah, Sarah, and even Joseph (only 3-years-old) all denying any violence between your mom and me in over 16 years… And now you make such ridiculous statements like; “and i swear if you lay one hand on my mother i will put your ass in jail.” It leaves me speechless, and of course wondering why you would even think such things, let alone speak them or write them down. What do you get out of these LIES? How do they benefit you?
I read your comments and reflect back on these past two years and what I have been through with regard to these false claims of abuse and other false allegations. These are allegations that have been presented in such a way and within such a corrupt system that it makes them seem indefensible. It doesn’t matter what I say, it doesn’t matter that there is no evidence, it doesn’t matter that there is no proof whatsoever, or that all of the allegations that were fabricated initially by your mom and CPS have been since recanted by your mom repeatedly. As I reflect, I can’t help but hope and pray that you, your brothers, or your sisters will never face such fabrications that you cannot defend against. That is truly what I am fighting for as we speak. I fight for the future! Your future!
The fact is, you know the truth, you grew up in our home and there is absolutely no reason for you to be keeping these allegations alive, even if it is to express your loyalty to some new found family members. I am your father, the father who raised you. Period! You cannot undo that no matter how angry this situation has makes you, no matter how much you disagree with your current circumstances. These fabrications are responsible for this entire nightmare – ON ALL FRONTS! You, your brothers, and sisters have been detained and imprisoned because of these allegations. Specifically, your brothers and sisters have been split up into three separate foster care facilities against their will and ours (with strangers). They are suffering tremendously and needlessly. Where is your desire to protect them from that? You know first-hand what that experience is like. Your mother harbors great guilt from the very fabrications she initiated (for all the wrong reasons), and it pains her tremendously to know that you have seemingly picked up where she left off.
I’m not telling you anything you don’t already know but the readers of this website may not know all the details… In closing, I would only say that I pray and hope the best things for you. I pray that you can see past this evil and stay focused on yourself and what is important to you right now. I regularly ask your mother how you are, what you are up to, and if things are OK. If there is anything I can do. I am here if you need me for anything! Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. I always have been. I fear them NOT! I love you more than you know.
DAD